I just have a couple thoughts:
There are Christian women who no longer believe in marriage. That annoys me to no end. They’ve allowed what they see and the ignorance that is rampant even in our community to turn them from the ONE thing they should never give up on. And there’s a difference between believing you are called to a life of singleness and not believing in marriage. One has faith attached, the other fear.
Let me add some caveats before I start: I am fully woman…have been all my life. I am fully single…with no romantic prospects on the horizon. I am NOT a virgin…but there are days I wish I was. I have skated on the verge of engagement a couple times…but never secured the actual commitment.
I’ve found that two dichotomous things are usually at work: 1. even if you don’t recognize them, there ARE men (emphasis on MEN) who are not only good for your body, but for your spirit and soul. These are the cats that will not just wait for you, but they’ll be waiting period. And when he finds you, he’ll know what it is because he’s already been to God, Jesus, AND the Holy Spirit about it; and 2) JUST because you have concentrated on his waiting, doesn’t mean that HE has. If all you’re doing is focusing on what he’s doing, you’ve already lost. Because sure, he might not be pressuring you about it, but he just might not be “waiting” for you either. There are many other women who will serve his declared needs and never think a thing about it. It doesn’t mean he loves you or even remotely cares. Some cats are simply serpent enough to give you what you want until you give them what they want.