Monthly Archives: August 2012

Revvie Writings

So my pastor writes up little nuggets of wisdom for Sunday service that we discuss and chew over. The following was a recent one and I had to *ahem* borrow it. So, I’ve changed some of the details and adapted it for myself.

The Me

But it’s not about that.

It’s about me recalling you for what you were – and not who I imagined you to be.

Not for who I idealized you as…but it’s about me remembering the truth of you with unfiltered honesty and accuracy.

Seeing the real you. The you you became. The you who got comfortable being that you. The you who lied, stole, disrespected, raped and pillaged. That you.

The you who liked it…at least you must have because you wouldn’t stop. Or even the you who liked being that you more than you loved me.

The you who absolutely did not deserve the me of even then. The you who absolutely does NOT deserve the me of now. The you who still don’t get it.  The you who ain’t got a clue.

But this me finally accepts that the real you was always right in front of me. Never left. Never moved. The whole time.

So this me gotta move on.  This me is leaving that you behind. Finally.

This me likes sanity.

This me likes clarity.

This me deserves better FROM me.

This me has reached the limit of that you. This me has had enough of that you. This me has outgrown that you.

And I hope that one day you will outgrow that you too.


The Foilable of Respect

Thank you for having respect for what you believe I do and what you believe I am capable of doing. That you would see my potential and find it laudable is motivating.  That you would admit to always “looking up” to me is humbling.

But what I do is not me.

What happens on the day that I can no longer do? Where goes it at a time when I choose to no longer act?

All that will be left is me. And she is worthy of being respected in that most basic form.

Simply because she is me.

So if you can show no respect to her beyond the construct of her doing then you have disrespected her greatly.


8-Cow Husband

I got this from crosswalk.com a couple days ago and only scanned the first few sentences.  But this morning after a painfully revealing prayer session on this exact subject (and after pulling at least 1/3 of my hair out over suffix conjugation for Hebrew verbs), I actually opened this and read it. If you get it’s meaning, it’ll bring you to tears…I know it did for me.

It’s written from a man’s perspective and actually titled “The 8-Cow Wife Story” (because it’s from the Men’s devotionals). It was also written from a husband’s/marriage standpoint, but I truly think this is more a testament to being single, Godly choices and standards, and to Godly patience. And imagine how awesome it had to be for the lady on the receiving end in this story.  I’m not going into detail because the story is good enough.  All I will say is that I’m going to be like the young man who was the basis of the story and will wait and pray for my “8-Cow Husband”.

The 8-Cow Wife Story
Chris Legg

Once I heard a story preached that I think makes some great points about our roles as men in our families, and especially our marriages. Honestly, I am dubious as to its veracity, accuracy, or at least its specifics, but whether based on history or not, it preaches well even as a parable.

Here it is:

The Tale of the Eight-Cow Wife

Once there was a missionary whose ministry was to a small community of tribes in Africa. One of the more quirky traditions of the tribe was the process for choosing a spouse.

When a father deemed that his daughter was old enough to be married, he announced it. Over the next few days and weeks, the eligible bachelors communicated their desire to marry her by tying cows to the father’s fence.

In the end, the one who had paid the most cows got the girl (and the dad got the cows).

Obviously, the more of the traits of a good wife (culturally) that a woman demonstrated, the more cows she would bring. If she were kind, submissive, smart, beautiful, etc., then she might bring 4 or 5 cows (6 was the record). Others might get 2 or 3 cows.

The missionary was mentoring a number of young Christian men preparing them to be ministers for their own people. One, in particular, he was friends with. This young man had committing himself to finding the greatest wife ever. He insisted that he would keep looking until he found an “8-cow wife.”

Despite the protests of the parents and the missionary, the young man was intent … and unmarried.

Eventually, the missionary was called back home for a furlough break. While home, he received a telegram from the village. “_________ married, eight-cow wife”.

The missionary was intrigued and couldn’t wait to get back to the village to find out more.

When he finally did, he went straight to the young man’s house and was welcomed in by the gentlest, most deferential, beautiful young lady he had ever seen. As the men sat to talk, she served them kindly and was clearly very smart. She brightened the room in every way.

Stunned, the old missionary proclaimed, “You did it. I must admit that you have found an eight-cow wife indeed!  Where did you find her?”

The young man replied, “Oh, that is _________ from the next village.”

The missionary was surprised. “I knew her, certainly she was a kind and pretty girl, but, no offense, I would not have thought of her as an eight-cow wife, and certainly I would never have recognized this wife as her!”

The young man smiled and said “After you left I searched and searched and was despairing of ever finding my eight cow wife when I believe God intervened. I believe He revealed to me this truth: there was one way to get an eight-cow wife. I chose a woman and paid eight cows for her.”

*****

We can imagine the effect on the village, the scandal of the thing! We can also imagine what it did to the young lady of character when a man chose her so certainly and with such finality, and in doing so making her the only eight-cow wife in the history of the community!

Men, generally speaking, I believe that we have the wife of our choosing. …the effect of a MAN who chooses her and pursues her and proclaims her has a huge effect on her … but I have just seen too many times when men are missing their opportunity to communicate such a Godly message to their wives, [friends/significants] …