(request) Dear So-and-So:
Signed, Help Me
(response) Dear Help Me,
Hey Buddy…how about you help yourself? You’re right you’re cryptic because nothing is clear. I need to know what you’re talking about if you want my help. All of it. Don’t leave out one detail because I need to know. It’ll be easier for me to tell you what I think that way. Regardless, you sound pitiful. You probably just need to get over it. I’m sure you’ve tried a bunch of things, but you probably didn’t try hard enough. Don’t you know how to pray? I would suggest that you haven’t yet truly applied yourself yet especially since I know what it is to pick myself up and dust myself off. You should be like me!
Yeah. I’d wanna pop the one responding in the face too. But this is how so many of us give advice. It’s always less about what the other person needs.
Even when solicited, the giving of advice should not solely entertain you. The person you’re pretending to help doesn’t need to know how much you “know” and how right you are.
It’s actually a privilege to be asked into someone’s head space. Don’t abuse it.