Daily Archives: April 30, 2012

Before you judge

I’ve been watching ‘Couples Therapy’ and the only couple I’m interested in is DMX and Tashera.

I’ve also been following a thread that had me concerned.  A gentleman was speaking his “truth”, but where was it coming from? It sounded like a “peshat” rant.  Wait…let me explain that…

Two Hebrew terms that are gonna define my life (actually, until I learned them, I hadn’t realized how much they already had): peshat and midrash.

Peshat – simple, literal, obvious meaning

Midrash – to examine, investigate

As soon as they heard DMX’s name some people thought they knew what they were gonna get.  See the intro to the show and KABOOM. They only considered the entertainment value.  And in this day of reality TV that is uber removed from reality, I get why. But I knew better. I know men like DMX. I know women like Tashera. Genuine. Hearts of gold.  Abused. Broken.

Back to my terms – I’ve really followed them related to coursework. There’s a way to read a text on the surface and there’s a way to study a text with all of the nuances surrounding it.  You can certainly use the two ideas separately, but in order to get the most out of your study…you need both.

People in this life are the same way. You have to combine the two to truly understand who a person is.  Contextually, if you take everything they do at face value, you’ll make all your assumptions simply based on what you see. You’ll start the labeling: criminal, thug, whore, no-good-for-nothing-and-nobody.  When you start to really investigate what they’ve been through and examine their circumstances, you get a clearer picture.  Things they do start to make more sense. A person who believes they have been controlled will tend to make a point of breaking rules. A person who has never truly known love will look for it anywhere and from anyone. They aren’t attacking you personally, they simply have to make sure they won’t get hurt first. It’s actually a defense, not an offense.

Everyone who is alive has or will have gone through something so don’t think that you won’t be a person who will need someone to consider both in regard to you and the hidden parts of your life.

Before you judge, think about what you don’t know.


“Batman is actually Bruce Wayne. Spiderman is actually Peter Parker. When that character wakes up in the morning, he has to put on a costume to become Spiderman.  And it is in that characteristic that Superman stands alone.  Superman didn’t become Superman, he was BORN Superman…the red blanket with the ‘S’ was what he was wrapped in when he was born.  When Superman wakes up in the morning, he is Superman.”  ‘Bill’, Kill Bill vol. 2

Superman has no “props”. He needs no gadgets. If it weren’t for “fitting in”, he wouldn’t need the ‘costume’ he wears to cover his true self.

Your life would be completely different if you woke every morning knowing that you were born super and with that kind of power.