Although I usually do not get into movie critiques and whatnot – either you liked it or you didn’t and I ain’t tryin to persuade you – but I had intended to talk about “Think Like a Man”. It worked out that I wasn’t able to see the movie just yet, but I did read the original book and found it highly entertaining, even if not wholly functional for my beliefs.
Originally, I was going to rip into what has been tagged as “The 90 Day Rule”…and how utterly stupid it is for someone, anyone to walk in it blindly as if that’s gonna be any type of gauge of a person or the relationship they want to have with you. But this morning I realized that the problem is not the rule – it’s the people.
Ladies, I’m talking to you. Woman to Woman (old, young, whatever). Non-virgin to Non-virgin (or virgin). Single to Single (and make no mistake – EVEN if you think you have a “boo”, you are STILL SINGLE.)
Before you start sucking your teeth and saying that things have “worked” for you, I’d like to find out how you know. If you’ve never done anything as drastically different as wholly committing to celibacy, how do you really know what “worked for you”? All you have is a comparison to everything else you’ve ever done and that’s not a true representation of how “well” it’s worked out. Oh…and let’s not forget that the ’90 day rule’ ain’t new…it just has a big name and definition behind it now. And if you did try it for a little while and it didn’t work for you, are you honestly trying to convince anyone that the feeling of being left after you’ve attached yourself to someone sexually is a better feeling than allowing someone to bounce from the gate because the only options they gave you were ‘have sex or I’m leavin’?
Lemme ask this as well, how much difference is there really between a rapist who wears a mask to hide himself and takes sex by force and manipulation and a man who will hide behind a mask of “caring”, and through emotional manipulation will work to make you think that what’s yours belongs to him before he has earned it? Before you tell me that’s a harsh analogy…you tell me how you felt after you got banged and left by someone you thought was “the one”. I can guarantee you, having been on both ends of the aforementioned spectrum, that the emotions in each case are just about the same.
So if you didn’t know, there is no expiration date on keeping what belongs to you. It’s yours. You have the choice of giving it to whomever and NO ONE EXCEPT GOD AND YOU HAVE ANY RIGHTS OVER IT. That’s the real rule.
Stop worrying about who to think like. Just try thinking.