The issue of rejection is running rampant. So many people are settling for ignorance and nonsense just to try to outrun that feeling. But what is this thing that they fight against?
Rejection = to discard as useless or unsatisfactory, to refuse to recognize, medical definition: to have an immunological reaction against (a transplanted organ or grafted tissue): i.e. a patient who rejects a transplanted heart
So a rejection means that you’re ‘useless and unsatisfactory’? That you have no worth because your worth was not recognized? I see why the fight then. But there’s also the medical definition which opens up a whole different door. Even doctors, with their training and skill and student loans, can’t graft two matters together that are incompatable. One will be rejected. Doctors painstakingly work to find suitable transplant matches and sometimes it simply doesn’t work. And it doesn’t mean that either thing is “bad”, it simply doesn’t (and can’t) work where it’s been placed. I wanted to look at one other thing from that med definition.
Immunological reaction = a bodily response to an antigen when lymphocytes identify the antigenic molecule as foreign and induces the formation of antibodies and lymphocytes capable of reacting with it and rendering it harmless.
Ok, so that’s a big long definition with medical words, but the point is that the only reason some matter gets rejected is because it’s perceived by the receiving body as foreign, and as such that body reacts to protect itself and render the thing harmless. When a heart transplant patient rejects the heart they’ve been given – it renders the new heart useless in their body. It can’t do its job effectively, if at all. And the receiving body works to cut its ties with that heart so that it can’t do any damage to the rest of the body. The body doesn’t recognize it and says “nope, gotta go”.
And it’s the same with people. When your thoughts, ways, life, actions, beliefs are all foreign to others, they will have to get rid of you. You won’t work together because neither can do their job effectively. Your wisdom and their ignorance don’t graft together. And in that, they will do everything can to protect their way. And just like a transplant patient, even though the new thing is necessary for their life, if the body don’t like it – sometimes there’s a violent purging where doctors have to remove the new organ almost as soon as they implant it. And the one thing about transplants… they don’t use the same organ twice in the same body once they’ve found that the receiver won’t accept it.
So even though rejections are disappointing, the reality of them lets us realize the truth of the situation and that truth allows us to freely let them go — without blame, without guilt, without anger, without drama. They can go and we can wish them well.